So you think that your partner has a drinking problem. You have tried to discuss his drinking with him but every time you bring up the issue you end up in a screaming match. He denies it and you end up feeling guilty. Firstly let us point you to another page where we discuss, does he have an alcohol problem? However what we have found is that even after reading that page some people still want a more explicit answer. So we have provided the medical definition of alcohol problems here. On this page we will give some simple straightforward pointers to answer your question. If he is doing some or all of these then probably he has an alcohol problem. The more of them he is doing the more likely he has a problem.
So in no particular order, he probably has an alcohol problem if he:-
- 1. Smells of alcohol, all or much of the time
- 2. Hides his bottles
- 3. Sneaks drinks
- 4. Lies about how much he drinks
- 5. Is drinking more than he used to
- 6. Is drinking more often
- 7. Drinks earlier in the day
- 8. Puts drinking before spending time with you
- 9. Takes days off work more often
- 10. Is hung over in the mornings more often
- 11. Has mood swings if he is not drinking
- 12. Loses interest in sex
- 13. Behaves inappropriately in social gatherings
- 14. Organises outings around drinking
- 15. Tries to downplay the amount and impact of his drinking
- 16. Sometimes uncharacteristically offers to go shopping
- 17. Increases the frequency of meetings with his friends in the bar
- 18. Frequently comes back later than planned / even skips meals altogether
- 19. Shows obvious signs of drinking, slurring his speech and unsteady on his feet
- 20. Forgets appointments
- 21. Breaks promises and does not keep commitments
- 22. Picks more fights or is more aggressive than before
- 23. Is more defensive when alcohol is mentioned
- 24. Falls asleep in inappropriate and sometimes dangerous circumstances
- 25. Gets drunk a lot
Did you recognise behaviours from the list? How many? We are here to help. Have a look at some of these other pages and see what is on offer.
The official criteria for alcoholism
Or Look at alcohol problems in another way
Or What makes an alcoholic?
Or What we can offer to help
Or What our program looks like
Or You might just want to join up and get the help and support you need.
Whatever you do we suggest that you find help and support, whether it is in Bottled Up or elsewhere. Living with an alcoholic is a very painful and lonely road to walk alone. It is easier to walk it with a friend by your side.