Welcome you have found Bottled Up!
Bottled Up is a place for people who live with a problem drinker or an alcoholic. It is a place where people understand the kind of things that you are going through, the anger, disappointment, frustration and helplessness.
We understand because we have been there (read Lou’s page). However because we are also therapists (find out about us here) we tend to have a much broader and more balanced perspective than you normally find on most websites.
Living with an alcoholic often means feeling isolated and lonely as your social life shrinks. It can mean having no one to confide in, no one to support you.
You don’t want to open up to someone if you are being told to “leave him/her, get out and run.
This is difficult because you still love him/her and constantly being advised to get out makes you feel guilty about staying.
Let us reassure you right from the start, no one is going to try and make you feel guilty – guaranteed!
No one is going to tell you to leave your home or your partner – unless you are being abused and are in danger.
No one is going to tell you its all your fault!
We know you are exhausted and need some care and support and a hug – need to settle for a virtual one for the moment. But if we ever meet in person ……
Apart from virtual hugs, what can you find here?
Well we have a heap of information that has grown over the years the website has existed. For example you may be here wondering if your partner is an alcoholic, you can look at some definitions of alcoholism here.
You might want to watch some videos giving help about living with an alcoholic, you can find some here. You may want to read about powerlessness and why we at Bottled Up think that is a limited view.
You may be looking for the help and support of people in your situation, people who will accept you where you are and support you. We have a member’s section with a wonderful, caring and supportive community who share their joys, sorrows and wisdom.
You may be looking for advice and information. We have that in abundance. In the member's section there are pages of articles on dealing with emotions, dealing with situations and how to help your drinker to change. We have around 20 hours of audios on many topics relevant to your situation.
You may want something a bit more systematic and we have a program that takes you by the hand and (literally) talks you through it. It has 12 audios and workbooks to help you to examine your situation and improve your life. There are tools here that are unique to Bottled Up, you will not find them anywhere else.
If all you want is the program, then you can access this without having to become a member. We know that some of you just want to have the tools and be left alone. So we have also made the program available as a take away.
The main point is that this a website is designed for you. You can come and rest here, or you can pick and choose what you want to do or not do. There is no one pressuring you, making demands on you or nagging you about what you are not doing.
This is your website, this is Bottled Up